Nigredo or the moment when the sun is eclipsed

When a client comes to therapy, the question very often arises: "why exactly this has happened to me, why has fate, God, the universe been so cruel to me?" And these are good and meaningful questions, because by searching and finding the symbolic meaning, it is possible to transform the experienced emotional trauma and move on. It is definitely not an easy task, especially if the trauma was caused by close people. K.G. Jung compares such situations to being caught between a rock and a hard place, where the Self plays the role of a blacksmith. Personal growth is impossible without emotional pain and experiences. The most difficult thing is to experience the collapse of idealization, then it remains to evaluate and revise priorities. Sometimes you have to give up something, for example, if there are food bugs in the food. Most likely, all loose packages will be thrown in the field, only unopened ones will remain. Similarly, in relationships, except in cases of severe victimization or very significant relationships, a person will choose to distance themselves in order not to be subjected to violence again. Then being alone with yourself and/or with a therapist will begin the healing process. This autumn I happened to observe a snail-gnawed pumpkin, I thought it would go first for the soup, but I watched as it healed itself while standing on the shelf - its wicks were covered with a hard layer, no worse than the hard pumpkin skin. Nature has thought of such things. Therefore, I wish everyone to take care of themselves so that there are not too many "excellent snails" around. How to distinguish them? Each person's own feelings will be the most true, if there is often a feeling of guilt, or a feeling of humiliation, or pain and sadness, as well as disappointment, then you should definitely review and analyze what causes these feelings and draw conclusions. Austras Skujiņa's poem seems appropriate for the topic. Waiver I give everything to you whatever there is in the world. A big gap between us split the road between the banks. can't break it let go seek and acquire what I find valuable. let go away don't ask for anything. Dream poppy flower do not fight for eternity. /A.Skujiņa/